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You want your grief to go away, but you’re afraid it never will. You wonder:
Will it always hurt this much? Will it always feel like a knife in my heart?
Hopeful healing means knowing that grief isn’t an enemy to be pushed away, but a reminder of your love with the deceased. We grieve because we love, and it is perfectly normal to feel sad, confused, and tired with grief. Even though it can feel awful, grief is a gift in many ways!
Working with our grief can lead us to new and deeper understanding of those whom we love and of our lives overall.
Here are three truths about grief:
Grief must be embraced to heal.
Grief hurts; mourning helps.
Healing is possible!
A grief coach can make the difference between living with ongoing pain and living hopefully and joyfully after loss.
Beth provides individual and family bereavement coaching in-person, online through video, and by phone. As a Certified Compassionate Bereavement Care™ Provider and a student of the “companioning” philosophy of grief care, Beth coaches by enabling the bereaved to set their own agenda and encouraging them to identify their healing goals. She believes that the bereaved can feel more hopeful when they mourn in mindful and purposeful ways. Grief exists because we love and often in proportion to our love; it is a gift of love. When it is mourned well, our grief softens.
As a trained spiritual guide, Beth works with people of all faith bases and spiritual backgrounds. She encourages the bereaved to bring their own spirituality to their mourning work, allowing them to explore the grief-healing power of love, compassion, kindness, forgiveness, peace of mind, and hope.
Beth offers workshops in the following topics:
Trauma, Death, and Grief
Grief and Mourning for the Clergy (Roman Catholic)
Mourning with Purpose
Hope for the Holidays
Mother/Father’s Day Mourning
Beth combines the training models of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, the former National Catholic Ministry for the Bereaved, and the MISS Foundation to develop her facilitator training workshops. Workshops typically are two to two and one half days although shorter, subject-specific workshops can be accommodated. Bereavement Facilitator Trainings are offered for both general and faith-based settings. All training incorporates the monastic approach of journeying with the bereaved through love, mutuality, hospitality, listening, prayer and mindfulness, humility, action, and community building.
All training incorporates such content as: understanding grief and mourning; cultural deterrents to mourning well; funerals, memorial services, and other healing rituals; learning the emotional, cognitive, physical, spiritual, and social elements of grief; facilitating grief support groups; approaching grief support holistically; applying self-care for facilitators; and developing a comprehensive bereavement service plan.
Faith-based training includes all the above plus faith-specific funeral concerns, focus on the holiness of listening and response, and spiritually based social support.
Writing about Grief Workshops
This workshop focuses on using writing to set an intention to heal, to embrace grief to move through it, to experience all our emotions, to recognize the universality of suffering, to understand our expectations (those that have been met and those in which we've been disappointed), to enact the difference between grieving and mourning, to move from passivity to action, to find grace and hope in loss, and to write to learn who we are now as changed people.
Various types of writing include the eulogy (particularly as a venue for honoring the deceased and healing ongoing pain), healing journals, poetry, and self-reflection stories and essays.
Finding Hope Retreat
This retreat can be customized from a one-half day to two full days. The retreat encompasses a variety of discussions, hands-on activities, and opportunities to explore a current or past grief. Music, art, writing, light physical activity (like short walks), meditation, and rest are incorporated to explore one’s grief in healthy, helpful ways.