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Resources

Books:

When Worlds Collide: Hope and Healing for First Responder Grief 

ICISF Press (in progress)

Grief on the Road to Emmaus: A Monastic Approach to Journeying with the Bereaved

Liturgical Press (2022)

Supporting a Grieving Workforce

ICISF Press, 2021

Good Words: Memorializing Through a Eulogy

Westbow Press 2014

originally published in Grief Illustrated Press, 2011

More Good Words: Practical Activities for Mourning

Westbow Press 2014

originally published in Grief Illustrated Press, 2011

 

 

 

 

Booklets with Workbooks:

  • Good Words: Eulogies for Children

  • Good Words: Eulogies with Children’s Voices

  • Good Words: Nontraditional Eulogies

  • Good Words: Eulogies and Religious Settings

  • Good Words: Eulogies and Difficult Situations

  • Good Words: Writing and Delivering a Eulogy

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Grief on the Road to Emmaus book cover
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Sibling Loss

Delivering a Eulogy

If you’re not used to public speaking, you may feel nervous or anxious about delivering such an important speech. Reading Good Words: Memorializing through a Eulogy can help! But listening to someone deliver a speech also can be helpful.

Here are three short videos that you can use as you practice the four key public speaking skills of pace, pitch, volume, and rhythm. Each video provides some instruction on what good delivery sounds like through. Parts 1 and 2 use poems and Part 3 uses a eulogy to demonstrate strong public speaking skills.

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Bead Blessings© are designed to be a beautiful mourning aid. Although made of natural stone, the beads are surprisingly soft and  fit easily into your hand. Use these beads to focus your attention while saying a prayer, blessing, or mantra. Or, use them as “worry beads” when the anxieties of grief are strong.

Why use beads?

Beads have been used for thousands of years across all faith and belief systems to help people calm themselves, ponder life, pray, meditate, honor, and bless. People of all ethnic backgrounds, races, religions, and creeds can use beads to help connect with their feelings about their loved ones, their belief in a higher power, and to heal within.

What do beads have to do with grief?

Grief is a powerful emotion that comes on us when we are bereaved from the loss of a loved one. Being bereaved actually means to be robbed of or deprived of someone or something. In the case of grief, usually we have lost a beloved person, but it can be a home, a job, or another kind of relationship. If we only feel grief and do nothing with it, the grief can make us sick or keep us stuck in pain. Mourning is the process of doing something active with grief.

Using beads as mourning practice can be one of many powerful ways to work actively with your grief. With the beads to focus attention, the mourner can hold them all or touch each bead — one at a time — saying a prayer, blessing, or mantra while doing so.

What is your favorite mantra? Here are some sample blessings:

  • Yours (God’s), not mine.

  • You’re always here with me.

  • I love you always.

  • Peace to you and to me.

  • Whisper in my heart; I will listen.

  • Departed but not gone from my heart.

  • (breathe out) I release pain. (breathe in) I take in peace.

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children's beads with elephants
beads with sankofa bird charms

Grief and the Art of Kintsugi

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Grief is all about love. When someone we love dies or when we otherwise lose someone or  something precious to us, we often feel the sorrow of grief. It’s as if we’ve been broken apart, and  we need ways to mourn that help us to put our hearts back together again.

The Japanese art of kintsugi offers a concrete symbol of the hard, rewarding work of mourning.  Kintsugi (golden joinery) is a method for reconnecting broken ceramic or other materials, giving  them new strength. Rather than breakage being a reason to throw something away, it offers  opportunity for repair, which then becomes part of the pottery’s history. The repair has a beauty of  its own that stems from its continued usability. Kinsugi symbolizes people—we love, lose who or  what we love, and must love again, allowing us to be whole, healthy, and reasonably content. Grief’s broken edges can be reconnected and softened through mourning. Shattered hearts are gilded by continuing to love. 

Making and using kintsugi engages the philosophy of wabi-sabi, in which we embrace what is flawed  or imperfect, just we must embrace life’s struggles and disillusions. The careful repair work of  kintsugi also reflects the Japanese philosophy of mushin, which considers change a form of  detachment and something to be accepted. Detachment isn’t letting go of love or avoiding the grief  of the loss; detachment is giving love and grief an ongoing place in our lives where they can anoint  but not destroy us.

As with kintsugi pottery repair, our scars are the precious, artful damage of life. The art of kintsugi embodies how  mourning helps us reorient  when the imperfections and  challenges of life and loss disorient us. Grief changes us, and mourning remakes us as stronger, potentially more loving people. Grief is about love, but love is  first about living. 

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